After two decades in the copywriting trenches, I’ve learned what actually converts. (Hint: It’s not what they’re teaching at those $5,000 masterminds.)
I was three headlines deep into a “million-dollar” swipe file when I realized I was done pretending to be someone else.
“CRUSH your competition!”
“Your prospects are DYING to buy!”
“If you don’t act NOW, you’ll hate yourself FOREVER!”
I noticed my jaw was clenched. And I was having what my therapist would probably call “a moment of clarity.”
This wasn’t copywriting. This was emotional manipulation with a marketing degree.
Here’s the thing nobody talks about at those fancy copywriting conferences (And I’ve been doing this since faxes were the hot new marketing tip).
I’ve written for 7-figure companies and scrappy startups.
And for years, I played the game.
I wrote the urgency.
The manufactured scarcity.
The “you’re broken and this will fix you” angles that make people feel like crap about themselves…right before they hand over their credit card.
It worked…sort of.
But it also made me feel like I needed a shower after every client call.
The breaking point came when I was writing copy for a women’s business course. The client wanted me to use fear tactics about “falling behind other successful women” and “your family suffering because of your indecision.”
I stared at that brief for twenty minutes. Then I called her back.
“What if we talked about what they actually want instead of what they’re afraid of?”
Silence.
“But…fear converts better,” she said.
“For who?”
That conversation changed everything. Because here’s what I’ve learned after writing copy that’s generated millions in revenue…
Women don’t buy because you back them into a corner. They buy when something clicks. When they feel understood. When they trust you’re not just trying to extract money from their wallet.
Bro marketing treats prospects like ATMs with ADHD. Push the right buttons, apply enough pressure, and money comes out.
But what if there’s a better way?
Like, if instead of manufacturing urgency, we create genuine connection?
What if instead of exploiting insecurities, we actually solved problems?
What if we stopped yelling at people and started talking with them? (Duh!)
I’ve tested this approach with over 200 campaigns in the last 5 years. And the results were solid. Higher conversion rates, lower refund rates, and clients who actually stick around because they trust you.
Not despite the warmth. Because of it.
The research backs this up, too. Dr. Antonio Damasio’s work on decision-making shows that people buy based on emotion, then justify with logic.
But here’s the twist…positive emotions (trust, excitement, connection) create stronger purchase memories than negative ones (fear, scarcity, shame).
Which means when you make someone feel good about buying from you, they’re more likely to buy from you again.
Revolutionary concept, right?
Look, I’m not saying every business needs to sound like a therapy session. Some industries thrive on urgency and competition.
But if you’re selling to women, building long-term relationships, or just tired of feeling icky about your marketing…there’s another path.
Connection over coercion.
That’s what I’m all about. Marketing that feels as good to write as it does to read. Copy that converts not because it manipulates, but because it genuinely serves.
If you’ve ever wondered if there’s a way to sell without losing your soul in the process…you’re in the right place.
Welcome to marketing that doesn’t make you want to hide under a rock.
Keep it rodeo
Lorrie “Lo” Morgan
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